Bereavement Thank You Card

I have just heard that my Aunt has died of cancer. I was not very close to her but my parents were and as I am not in the same country, I'd like to send a sympathy card to my uncle and his two daughters, my cousins. I'd like to address it as follows:

Dear Tom, Karen and Tammy,

but Karen has two children under five and a new boyfriend (not the father of the children) who she has been living with for about a year. Should I include the boyfriend (whose name I don't know) and the children (who are two young to really comprehend it)? Tammy is single. I'm not sure of the ettiquette and don't want to cause them any distress or consternation. Thanks.
I could find out the boyfriend name if necessary.

Orpah, thanks for the suggestion that I send my parents a sympathy card - I hadn't though of it but I think they would appreciate it. Also, my uncle is my mother's brother, my Aunt was not the blood relative in this instance. But my parents were still very close to her and they will be strongly affected by it.

I would normally put "...and family" kind of covers it all.
Dear Tom and family or even tom, Karen, Tammy and family.

2007-03-13 15:37:43 by Velouria

In order to write a funeral thank you card, it should be determined who the card is going to and what role that person played in the life of the ...

I am writing thank you notes to people who sent food, flowers, etc. when my father-in-law passed away. We have pre-printed cards from the funeral home that say on the front "Thank you for sharing our sorrow..., etc.,The family of_____________." The cards open and are blank inside, so I'm assuming I am to write a personal message inside each one. Is this correct? I've seen cards that say nothing more than ours say on the front. Thanks for your help.

Ive seen it done both ways. but a little note is nice if you are up to it especially for flower or donation given. EXP: We, or I appreciate the live lilly plant . or Your donation to Moms charity is appreciated.

2008-04-13 15:12:21 by Beverly M

Whether its to thank people for a birthday bash or for their condolences at a time of bereavement, I've seen a trend at public thank yous. Folks are now placing a message in the newspaper rather than mailing individual thank you cards. Is this proper etiquette?

ALWAYS send individual thank you cards. The other people went out of their way for you, and each should be privately thanked.

If you choose to also take a public ad in the paper, that's nice, too.

2008-01-11 10:06:12 by debodun