Save The Date Invite

A few months ago my friend sent me a "save the date" note for her wedding which is this weekend. The invite said at the bottom "invitation to follow" but the actual invite never came.
The wedding is in three days and I do not know if I should go or not! Maybe she reviewed her guest list and decided she had too many people comming and had to make some cuts so decided not to send me an invite after all? I have asked a few close friends what to do in this situaion and one friend told me to still show up to the wedding but to leave before the reception, but another friend told me not to go at all, if they wanted me there they would have sent the invite.
I know what most people will say "just ask your friend if you are still invited" but Im a little nervous of asking incase I am cut off the guest list. That will be an awkward conversation to have and I am a shy person who hates that kind of awkwardness.
What do you think? still show up or dont show up? or if I should ask her then help me come up with a tactful way to do it without making her feel awkward about telling me Im not invited.

That is awkward. Although it was rude of them to haphazardly send save-the-dates and not follow up with an invitation (or at least apologize for their change in plans so you wouldnt be left in limbo like you are now), it would be doubly awkward to bring up the topic now.

If the wedding was two weeks from now, I would advise you to call her and say "I figured your wedding plans had changed and you are now having a smaller wedding, just wanted to check and make sure" because there is always a chance that an invitation got lost in the mail.

But since the wedding is three days away, I think you should stay quiet and not attend. If you had been invited, and you didnt respond to the invitation, the bride would have already called you several days ago to confirm whether or not you were coming. The caterer needs the final count a few days before the wedding, and the bride needs to know exactly who is coming and who is not. It is very common for the bride to make calls to non-responses to confirm. For this reason, I think it is safe to conclude that you were not invited.

I wouldnt attend the ceremony as your friend suggested. Thats the main event, and you werent invited to it. Plus, imagine how awkward it would be if the bride saw you there and had to make an excuse!

2010-02-01 22:30:02 by TAKE A PREGNANCY TEST!

Ok, So I'm getting married Oct. 1st and Karen & I decided we wanted to do a video invite / save the date. I have been pretty obsessed with ...

So I have already sent out the save the dates a while ago for my december wedding but there are some people i forgot to send them to. should i send them now or wait to send them an actual invite? i feel like they know from others that have already received them long ago. also, there are some people who im hesitant to invite because of their guests. like i want to invite them but is it rude to NOT put "and guest" its just that i know one of them would bring someone and i dont like an another would bring my ex boyfriend who its awkward between...help.

How long are you going to wait to send the actual invitation? If you are going to wait until a month or two before the wedding to send the actual invitation, I would go ahead and send the ones you forgot the "save the date" invitation so they don't feel left out. If you wait until a couple of months (or however long it's going to be for the actual invitation) before the wedding, they might have plans by then and not be able to make it... or they'll have their feelings hurt and not want to go since you waited so long to send it to them.
If you don't want the guests to go.. just put their name. They'll send back a RSVP (hopefully) so you'll know if they're bringing their guest(s) or not. Normally it's rude if you bring someone else if they are not listed on the invitation.

2009-05-26 14:30:48 by MathNerd

Having a wedding in NY in August and getting ready to send out save the date magnets. Inviting many people from out west, there is only one hotel in my town I am planning on reserving block of rooms there. Is it okay to put the hotel business card with the magnets?

I know hotel info ususally goes w/ invitations but i think people will start making travel plans....

I think that's a great idea! if you have a lot of people planning on traveling or just staying overnight due to intoxication:) then this is clutch.

I am from NJ...I'm used to NY weddings, they are a much bigger deal than other parts of the country. You may get some people saying that its not necessary, but take it from a fellow tri-stater...it's necessary!

2008-01-30 06:34:26 by susan

Are they one in the same, or different from one another. Does a save the date ensure an invite to the wedding?

Save the date cards are to notify the person of the date you are having the wedding, if they live far away they can save up to come or they can arrange travel, or time off work.
Then later you send the invite which has the finer details of the wedding, as the save the date only has the date and location.
I think a save the date definately ensures an invite to the wedding, as if you were to get the time off and book your flight and them got no invite that would just be wrong!!

2007-05-13 08:27:39 by Paul C

I want something the size of a 4X6, that can have a picture on it and would prefer a magnet...does anyone know of any cheap sites, or a place like kinkos? Kinkos was 300 dollars for the type i wanted and that is more than i'd prefer to spend...

Check out www.zazzle.com

I found it the other day and I love it!

2008-06-03 04:35:53 by . .