Fall Bridal Shower Invitation

I've always understood that it's inappropriate to include registry info in shower invitations (let alone wedding invitations). Rather, the appropriate etiquette is that the recipient of the invitation is supposed to contact the shower host to find out that information *if* they want to purchase items from the registry. However, especially with those little registry cards that the stores push on brides-to-be (i.e. free advertising) the etiquette on this seems to be changing. Or is it? ......... I'm thinking of hosting a bridal shower in the fall and am wondering about the etiquette. In the past, when I've personally hosted bridal and baby showers I've worked around this issue by adding a statement like "Please contact host X to R.S.V.P. and for registry information" or I've created a web site that list links to the guest of honors' registry (in addition driving directions, etc.). Also, I've never received a shower invite with those little cards. Any thoughts?
I am not the bride (already married for many years) rather I am asking as the host.

I think that shower invitations are the one and only exception to this tried-and-true rule!!

Traditional etiquette does state that yes, it is inappropriate to make ANY mention of gifts whatsoever in an invitation (so please don't inclue them with your wedding invite!).

HOWEVER....the shower originated as a replacement for a dowry. The concept is to "shower" the bride-to-be with gifts to establish her new home. When people receive shower invitiations, they go with the intention of giving a gift. In this case, including registry information is done as a convenience to the guest, who wants to give a gift. It helps them to get an idea of your tastes. It does not obligate them to buy from your registry list, but it can point them in the right direction.

As long as you have a wide price range of items on your registry (from as small as $5 kitchen gadgets to $200+ bedding or fine china) to accomodate everyone's budgets, you should be just fine.

If it makes you feel better, where I live, registry information in shower invitations is actually the norm. It makes shopping for the couple easier. It makes it a cinch if they're out of town - I know just where to go.

2007-04-18 07:10:51 by Babies were born to breastfeed.

Here is a Breakfast at TIffany's inspired Bridal Shower Invitation. I used the Sweet Hearts Cricut Cartridge to cut out the ring Hawaiian ...

I'm not sure about this, and need advice, please.

My cousin is getting married this fall. She had her engagement party last week, and I just received and invite to a bridal shower next month. The invitation says "Price $65, and she is registered at ABC store".

First: Does this not sound like a 'gift grab' to you? It sounds tacky to me, just wondering. (With 'gifting' parties being so close together) I've never received a shower invite asking me to pay a fixed-price meal as well as bring a gift.

Second: I cannot attend the bridal shower, as I'll be out of the country. Do I have to send a gift?

Thanks!
Edited to add: "ABC store" is fictitious. lol

Politely send your regrets.

Do not send $65.

Do send a gift.

2009-06-18 10:30:36 by snowpatrol321

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Bridal Invitations

My co-worker's sister is getting married in a few months, and I just received my bridal shower invitation in the mail. Here's my dilemma: I just put in my two-week notice. A great job opportunity fell into my lap and I couldn't pass it up. I know that she invited me prior to putting in my notice, but now I'm not sure what I have to do. The people that I work with are like a second family, but I feel a little weird attending the shower, much less the wedding, since I will no longer work here. What should I do?

Your choice...there is no right or wrong here since it is not actual family...so do what you want to do....

2007-01-10 11:18:27 by Koko Loco

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My friend got married in June. She did not invite me to her wedding, but 2 weeks before her wedding I got an invitation to her bridal shower along with some registry information. I don't live in the same town anymore so it was hard for me to travel there to attend. I sent a little note telling her congratulations and that I wouldn't be able to come to the shower due to distance but I wished her and her fiance the best of luck. I didn't buy her a gift since I was not attending the shower and she didn't invite me to the wedding.

We are not the best of friends and had a slight falling out a few months before her wedding when she insulted my fiance and I's decisions to have a longer engagement (we had a 6 month relationship and year long engagement and our wedding is in 3 weeks, she had a 3 month relationship and 4 month engagement). She said our longer engagement mean we didn't love each other as much (insulting, right?) I'm not that surprised she didn't invite me to the wedding. I did not invite her to mine either, but I thought it was a little tacky to invite me just to the shower (it looked like a total grab for gifts).

Anyways, so I sent the card, didn't attend the wedding (since I wasn't invited) and a few days ago I received an email asking me if my gift was lost in the mail because she hasn't received it yet.

What do I do and how can I handle this?
I don't want to be downright rude, since we still communicate once or twice every few months and she is a friend of some of my friends, but we are no where near close enough friends for me to splurge on a gift for a wedding I wasn't even invited to (plus I need money for my own wedding and my life with my fiance). Do you think it was tacky to invite me just to the shower without inviting me to the reception, and then asking for a gift?

How can I handle this tastefully?
Just to get the timeline straight, since people have been commenting on the length of engagement, we're not older. We're both in college. I knew my fiance for 2 years before we started dating, then it was 6 months to engagement and 1 year until the wedding. She knew her fiance 3 months before she was engageda, and didn't know him before that.

I would simply ignore this tasteless person and her email. If she persists you could just reply that "no it wasn't lost". It was rude of her to put you on the shower list when you weren't invited to the wedding. Personally, I think she's trying to strong arm you into giving her a gift. To add, you were not obligated to send anything other than your regrets and you did that. Cards are not obligatory. In tracing lost gifts, brides don't do that. The givers do that when they don't receive thank you notes. That kills two birds with one stone--it traces the gift and nudges the bride into action. You've done absolutely nothing wrong here.

2008-08-17 19:47:58 by Laura [tangerine atheati]

The other day I mailed a letter to a woman I haven't seen or heard from in 10 years. We were friends at one time and quite good friends to say the least. When she was dating her now husband, she wanted to set me up with one of his brothers just so we'd be sisters in law one day. It never happened. I'm now married myself and have been thinking about her and wanting to reconnect. I came across her address in the whitepages online and decided to take a chance.

We fell out of touch in a strange way. She was getting married and had told me the wedding date, even asked what I was wearing...then the bridal showers came and went, no invitation. The wedding came and went, no invitation. It was as though she just fell off the planet! Another girlfriend of ours also did not receive an invite. For years now we've been confused. At one point our other friend did write to her but never heard back -- what are the chances she'll write to me? We were closer, most definitely.
I can't go to her house because she lives out of state. I gave her my email address and of course she has my home address since I mailed the card.

im sure she will reply, especially if you say you two were closer... it could be that she just has so much to do after the marrige and everything...she might have kids, or other things keepin her from doin what she might want to...
i know how it is to think about an old close "girl friend" but never find the time to sit down and call or write them...shes writtin me before too and i didnt reply... and now that i finally did i dont hear from her... so just be patient... she will reply to you sooner or later....=)

2008-06-05 07:06:18 by Rachel