Bridal Shower Announcement

My fiance and I decided yesterday that we are not going to have a large wedding....just about 20 people or so. we want to get married on the beach with an officiant and the 20 people then have dinner at a nice restaurant after....
My sisters still really want to throw me a bridal shower and say I Can still register and stuff.
they say all I have to do is after we are married send out a "We're married" announcement and inside the announcement will say where we are registered and where to send the gifts....
Does this sound tacky?
I mean I know a lot of our family will be bummed they are not going so I guess a bridal shower and letting them have the option of sending a gift would be something they would enjoy....

Opinions???
Anyone done something similar?

thanks a bunch!

I think it's still okay to have a shower and register even if you're wedding is small. However, I wouldn't send out marriage announcements after the fact with the registry information -- that comes off as a bit greedy and if I were to get that I would feel like you were saying "okay we already got married, but here's where you can still buy me gifts anyway." Even if you don't include registry information in those announcements, the people that will want to give you a gift will give you one and ask where you are registered.

2009-05-13 17:22:36 by thanksbeezy!

Here is a Breakfast at TIffany's inspired Bridal Shower Invitation. I used the Sweet Hearts Cricut Cartridge to cut out the ring Hawaiian ...

I am the maid of honor. My bride has 2 registries at 2 different stores. One store offers printed announcement cards to include in the bridal shower invitation envelope. Thing is- the other place she is registered with, offers lovely cards but with no wording. I have to come up with the wording myself and I'm not sure what to write. Keep in mind this will not be the actual invitation to the party- but simply a way of letting guests know she is registered at this store. Any ideas of what the store card should say?

I did a little card with directions on one side and a little note on the other side that said:

The Bride and Groom have registered at Target and Crate and Barrel,

their registry information can be found under Koren Smith and Adam Jones
donations may also be made to their honeymoon fund at www.honeymoon.com

I can't remember her honeymoon site name so I made one up lol, personally I wouldn't have even put it but her mother insisted it be included.

2010-02-08 13:01:39 by evey

Price: $27.00 $7.00

Made in the USA
Note cards are 6 1/4 x 4 1/2-Inches when folded, have pre-printed info lines inside to fill out (For, Date, Time, Place, RSVP), packaged in a box
This stunning flower makes a standout bridal shower invitation

My wedding is february and my mom is hassling me to hurry up and put our announcement in the paper. And how long before the wedding should you have the bridal shower? This is my first wedding that ive even helped plan and since it is mine I want to do things right. Anyone know a timeline?

In my opinion, doing things "right" is doing things the way you want them done. It is YOUR wedding after all. Put the announcement in the paper when you feel it is appropriate. I don't think there is technically a "right " or "wrong" time. Some people put the announcement right after the engagement, some do it months before the wedding, and some wait until the wedding is already over.
As far as the bridal shower, same deal applies. Since you probably aren't throwing your own bridal shower you should find a day that works for you and your maid of honor and still leaves the maid of honor enough time to plan out what she wants to do.
Don't stress too much & congrats in advance.

2007-10-26 09:21:41 by bella_babe_86

Price: $27.00 $27.00

Made in the USA
Note cards are 6 1/4 x 4 1/2-Inches when folded, have pre-printed info lines inside to fill out (For, Date, Time, Place, RSVP), packaged in a box
Total of twelve fill-in invitations with twelve white envelopes

My friend is getting married in 3 weeks. I planned a dinner for her with a little group of friends to get together before her big day. (Please keep in mind, we are not too thrilled about her decision to marry her fiance-he's cheated on her numerous times.) She recently sent out announcements to some, but not all, of us. Needless to say, those who didn't receive an announcement, understandably, no longer want to attend dinner. I'm stuck...I feel like the middle man once again. Please help.

Why is she sending out the invites?
As much as the fiance may suck, it's your friend. You need to support her.
Make some cute invites, send them out via mail, and carry on with the bridal shower.

2007-06-18 17:45:24 by tan_girl

My fiance and I are having a big wedding in July (invited 240, expecting 200), and the guest list is FULL. Not everyone we've invited will attend. However, my fiance wants to keep the attendees down to 200 because of the cost, and I want to keep it below 225, because I want the hall to be comfortable, not crowded.

I invited a dozen people from my mom's small church. My mom helped my bridesmaids to organize my bridal shower, and "passed the word" around her church about it. Since it's a small church (40 people) and few people there have children, a wedding is a big deal to them (even though it won't be held at their church). Everyone who is invited to the wedding has already received Save-the-Date cards, and also got a shower invitation, but to a few others it was new news and they just thought it was word-of-mouth. 4 people who my mom assumed were invited to the bridal shower surprised me later with presents and their apologies that they hadn't been able to make it to my shower because they hadn't heard in time.

I followed the rule about only inviting people to the shower who are also invited to the wedding. Unfortunately, these 4 people (who are all kind of close to my family, but just didn't make it onto the list) believe they were invited to the bridal shower and also gave me a gift. They now think they are invited to the wedding, and are planning ahead because the others in my mom's social circle were all invited. (Remember, they think the shower was word-of-mouth, and no formal invitations have gone out yet.) The 4 of them will feel extremely hurt and left out, at this point, if they are not invited... I had just planned to send them announcements.

Should I add 4 more people to the guest list without telling my fiance? (He will be really upset if he knows I added more people, but he doesn't know the exact count anyway.) Or should I just say thank you for the bridal shower gifts, and let these nice people get their feelings hurt? My mom might be really embarrassed. What should I do?

You're about to commit to a lifetime of sharing with this young man so don't exclude him from the start, be honest and talk to him about it and ask him what he thinks the two of you should do. A joint decision is a strong decision. It seems mean in a way to exclude these people as there are only 4 of them but.....what happens if they assume they can bring their partners and their children....it's easy to go from 4 to 24! I actually believe that the Wedding List is one of the biggest nightmares invented by man and I know of at least one very close friend of mine who has been engaged for around 6 years and is no closer to a wedding because of this very issue.
Good luck.

2010-04-07 00:24:33 by muddybears