Baby Sister Birth Announcement

My sister announced her babies birth in the local paper and her husband was mad because she didn't list his mothers parents who have been dead for over 20 years, should she have listed these? I thought you only listed the living and maybe the "late" spouse if the other spouse is still living, am I wrong in my thinking?

IT's not normal at all to list deceased family members. Or even great grand parents for that matter. It sounds like he has some unresolved bonding issues with his late grandparents. ..or maybe he needs to please his mom.

2007-11-11 15:52:22 by Liv

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My sister just had her baby the other day and I really want to make a birth announcement card to send to people. I want to download a software to do so. I need a software that is free and that is going to give me a lot of options. For example, the name, time, weight, lenght, where, when, add a photo, size of lettering, text, and so on. Please help. Thanks

You can create your own baby card using your photos at CropMom at http://www.cropmom.com. CropMom is an online scrapbooking site that has thousands of graphics you can use to embellish your card.

Most cards are 5" by 7" so use that canvas size.

You can add your own text, choose from a variety of fonts and sizes.

Once you've made your layout, you can purchase for a small fee the high-resolution, print-quality JPEG file of your layout. You can print the JPEG file at home or have it printed by a photofinisher. I personally like the cards at Snapfish because you can add another 5" by 7" landscape size layout (which is automatically reduced by Snapfish to fit the space) to the inside of the card.

One more thing: CropMom has divided the graphics into "kits." There is one called "A Visit from the Stork" and it has baby stuff.

2009-02-09 19:37:16 by fancyface77

We live on the west coast and our families are spread all up and down the east coast and England. So far, we have sent out and e-announcement for the pregnancy and a second announcing It's a Boy w/ Ultrasound Pics. The response was good and we received several congrats. My sister or mom would throw a shower, but it is not realistic and no one will come. I was planning on creating a Baby website, which would include pics, journal entries ect. I have also noticed they all have a tab for the registry. Is this tacky? I would also send out a birth announcement in the mail and the link to check out pics, ect. To you think this is acceptable? I dont want it to be all about the presents, but it would still be nice. I read several suggestions to have family "spread the word" about the registry. Not all my family talks to each other (although they all talk to me). Plus, my husbands parents are still very bitter about us moving (due to work) and have showed little enthusiasm. Do you think my idea for the website and snail mail announcement will be acceptable? Also, what is the best Free baby website you have seen? And the best reasonable place to get announcements? With the state of the economy, I would like to keep the cost as low as possible and save the $$$ for diapers!

I think that the website idea is a great one, this day and age, most people have at least one computer in their house OR they can access the interenet very easily. i love receiving mail (a letter the old fashioned way is great), I would send out the letter including the website address and explain what it is. The registry might not be such a bad thing, If you can't throw a baby shower, this might be a way to let perople give you something nice to welcome your baby into the world. I love the journal entry ideas, most people love hearing about the little baby that is growing and developing. but make sure you keep on it, or try to add one every week at the lastest. I haven't really seen too many websites around for pre-delivery babies, but then I again I haven't really looked for one. You could probably get an ad over the internet and forward the link to your family, I don't know how much putting an ad in the newspaper costs. Hope this helps, best of luck to your family and new one, that is so exciting... and the online pregnancy sounds like a GREAT idea!

2008-09-30 09:29:55 by Popple

my sister's mother-in-law died recently. she sent an email to family members who may or may not have known her mother-in-law, but knew my sister and my sister's family. she sent it as a note to let people know that this event had happened. my uncle, who has never met my sister's mother-in-law sent a nasty letter to her, offering his condolences. he stated in the letter that he held off sending his condolences because he was waiting for an official notice of her death before he contacted my sister. huh?
my sister and i are kind of bewildered. what kind of official notice is my mean 75 year old uncle referring to? are there cards that one sends out? it's not like it's an invitation to a party or an announcement, like a baby's birth or something. he lives in nyc and would have no reason to read the local newspaper down here in alabama. so i doubt he's waiting to read her obituary.
does anyone know what my uncle was waiting on? help!
i should explain a few things.
my uncle has never met this woman. this email was the last in a series of emails dealing with her mother-in-law's illness. my sister was sending the email to her family and friends, kind of like, " thank you for all of your prayers. . . . "
in the same letter, my uncle admonished my sister for her favorite mode of communication (it is mine, too), and basically said that he probably won't be communicating with us in the future since none of his nieces "know" how to write a letter. we are all in our 40's- i'm pretty sure we know how to write a letter. in his quest to offer condolence to my sister, he enclosed a poem from hamlet (i don't think it's called a poem). it had to do with how we are duty-bound to mourn the death of a parent. the next part of the poem, which he didn't include, but i'm sure he wanted to, was how mourning for too long is unmanly.
he was not shocked by her death and he had no plans on attending the funeral. he's just mean.

Edited to say: After reading your additional comments, it does sound like you uncle is being a bit petty. Would I be right in thinking he may be a lonely old man? If so, he is probably just sharing some of his bitterness with you. It certainly is NOT the way to win friends and influence people.

A lot of people, especially older people, do put a lot of emphasis on 'duty' in one's life. I think we have moved a little more towards genuineness in our behaviour these days, but sometimes people do get left behind.

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In the days before computers, people would usually send out a formal 'notice' of someone's death by mail, or they would make a personal phone call to let close family and friends know.

For many people of your uncle's generation, receiving an email is a cold way to be advised of someone's death. To them, it is less personal than a phone call or a hand written letter.

Of course, being closer to his generation than yours, I can see his point, but at the same time, I think he may be being a little harsh.

It is always difficult to know what to do for the best in the case of an unexpected death, and people rarely think of reaching for the etiquette book when they are so grief stricken.

Perhaps you could buy a pack of black edged cards from the stationer and send you uncle a hand written note, thanking him for his condolences and apologising for not notifying him in a more traditonal way. Explain that your sister was very grief stricken and doing the best she could under the circumstances, with a lot of people to care for and support.

I would not be surprised if he called or wrote with saying he was sorry to distress your sister, he may have just been shocked by the news and not known how to react.

If he doesn't, well, chalk it up to the good old word ~ 'curmudgeon' and let it go.

Sadly, when it comes to what to do in the case of a death, we only learn when it happens!

I do hope you and your sister are able to continue to find the help and support to see you through this time.

Best wishes :-)

2007-09-17 20:19:01 by atticus1_2000

This was interesting!

(LifeWire) -- Pauline and Jeffrey Eadie, of Cleveland, had gathered the family together to watch home movies of their two older children as babies. In one movie, Jack, now 5, was looking skeptically at his then-newborn sister, now 3. "In the video, I was saying, 'Jack, go to the baby, go hug her,'" says Pauline. "And then at some point I said, 'Go kiss Emma.'"

Unaware that her name had been changed when she was a newborn, Pauline Eadie's daughter, Caroline, looked at her and asked 'Who's Emma?'"

The Eadies are among a surprising number of parents who, following the birth of their child, suffer namer's remorse. In a recent poll of 1,219 mothers conducted by BabyCenter.com, 10 percent considered changing their baby's name. The reasons they gave ranged from being inspired by another name to having a relative disagree with the choice.

Regret is common after any big decision, and few prenatal decisions these days are as open to debate as picking a child's name. Rare are the parents who haven't invested in a small library of baby-name books or trolled the Internet for a name unique enough to be usefully Googled, but not so weird as to cause ridicule.

"Today, there's this perception that naming a child is almost like naming a product -- there's this huge national drive now to not be like anyone else," says Laura Wattenberg, author of "The Baby Name Wizard" and founder of the blog BabyNameWizard.com.

That may be one reason some parents have second thoughts when they realize they've picked the present-day equivalent of Jennifer or Justin.

In her first few years, 6-year-old Sophie Sauber's parents, Rob Sauber and Suzanne Ramljak, of Connecticut, were overwhelmed by the number of Sophies they encountered daily. Four out of 13 kids in their daughter's preschool class were named Sophie, and other parents were constantly yelling it at the mall. When Sophie was almost 4, they asked how she'd feel about being called Isadora, a name they'd considered before she was born.

"She understood our reasoning and liked the name. We weren't going to force her," says Ramljak. One day, after a trial period of a couple of months, she introduced herself as Isadora. "It was like, 'That's her name now!'"

Noting that by 12 months children already recognize the sound of their names, Dr. Karla Umpierre, a Miami psychologist and family counselor, encourages parents to get the child's input and approval if they decide to change the name after age 2. "It's best to change the name before then, because by 2 or 3 they have a sense of identity, and it could send mixed messages. The child might ask himself, 'Do you want to change me?'"

"Stability is very important for children," says Dr. Umpierre. "And changing a name could create a lot of insecurity."

For most parents, the urge comes long before the baby can say his or her own name. Wavering is not uncommon for those who figure they'll pick a name once they see the baby. "But that's a tall order to put on a newborn," says Wattenberg. "It's hard to look at this 7-pound thing and say, 'Oh! She's an Abigail!'" So they choose something quickly and then spend weeks second-guessing themselves.

That was the case for the Eadies. When their daughter was born, the nursery was full and the nurses were rushing them to sign the birth certificate and leave the hospital. "Emma seemed pretty," Pauline Eadie says. They sent out birth announcements, "but it just felt strange coming out of my mouth." They decided they preferred a family name, Caroline.

Adrienne and Matt Grayson, of Charleston, South Carolina, settled on the name Luke early in her pregnancy. "I also loved the name Beckett, but it felt a little weird, like Apple," says Adrienne Grayson, referring to the name actress Gwyneth Paltrow gave her daughter. When the baby was born, they named him Luke Beckett Grayson. What followed was a sea of engraved picture frames, monogrammed pillows, "Welcome Luke" signs drawn by the Grayson's older children -- and a wave of regret.

"I couldn't shut up about how we should call him Beckett instead of Luke, and I also started mourning my maiden name, Shaw," Adrienne Grayson says. "I thought I should've made that his middle name because we weren't going to have more kids."

The more she reflected, the more she wanted to change Luke's name to Beckett Shaw Grayson. The process involved hours on the phone with the Social Security office and the county clerk. She found that although it's legal to change a minor's name (as long as both parents consent), states don't always have a well-oiled system in place for regretful parents.

When her son's new Social Security card arrived, it read, erroneously, "Shaw Luke Grayson."

The Eadies, too, were bounced from one government agency to another. Eventually they filed the paperwork with a probate-court judge to change "Emma" to "Caroline."
I like Isadora way better than Sophie!
all great answers! I think how a name sounds with the last name is important too, I think names that have significance are better than just trying to be popular! I like the story about your Mom, hope you get that little girl!

Well, if parents would think LONG and HARD about what they want to name their kids, they wouldn't have this problem! Some retard once posted on here wanting to name her kid Frankie Love (all a first name) or Slevin Kaiser........I went off on her about how that poor kid is going to fare in life. She wouldn't listen, saying that we were "bad parents" for dissing her name, and that her kid wouldn't have problems. I told her I'm glad she wasn't my mother and that I bet her kids would legally change their names the day they turned 18. I already feel bad for her kids!

I hate it when parents name their kids things that THEY want....And don't think of their baby. A name is something that should develop over the entire pregnancy, be researched to find popularity and stuff like that, and be something you can see a 2 year old, 15 year old, and 80 year old having in ANY profession.

I never regretted what I named by baby because I thought about it for months!

2008-05-23 08:30:17 by P*U*M*A Recognize!