Baby Brother Birth Announcement

My brother.An email immediately following the birth announcement.I set bounderies with him and he got ANGRY with and deflected it into MY being manipulative.He doesn't take me seriously that he cannot be in my daughters life until he stops being a bully (and he cannot see it.Too much pot and alchol abuse is my opinion.He is handsome, funny, professional and can't see his behavior as everyone thinks he is so 'together'.So he think I am the one with the probelm for not taking a joke.So help!I need to to let him know I AM serious before I have him over.

Hi ___,

I really am excitied for you too come and see your new nephew. I would love to see you again as would Sarah. However, if you arrive and make belittiling jokes at my expense or at anytime do not recognize that when my daughter and I have the right to have 'no mean no', than I will have to ask you to leave. I hope you come and share this excitement with us. This is such a huge moment and I hope to share it with you.

Love, _
I won't do it in person or the phone. He gets angry, informs me that we are NOt talking about it, and he verbally lashes out at me and won't let me get a word in edgewise. And for the one answer. I am not hiding behind my baby. This would still be an issue if I had no children. I am not dragging my kids into a mess, I am protecting them

Maybe something like this...

Hi ___,

I really am excited for you too come and see your new nephew. I would love to see you again as would Sarah. However, with the birth of my child has come an overwhelming sense of protectiveness and if you arrive and make belittling jokes or do not recognize that no means "no" and stop means "stop," then I will, unfortunately, have to ask you to leave for my family's sake. I know we've had our differences in the past and I'd like to bridge that gap but I cannot have our disagreements and arguments affect my family's balance. All I can ask is that you respect my requests because this is such a huge moment and I hope to share it with you.

Love, _

2007-06-09 08:21:03 by happy

Defending our parenting. I have a new baby brother!

until she was three months old! We used to be the best of friends and did everything together when we were teens. Then after I got married I still invited him over a lot but I guess you could say he got involved with the wrong kind of people. Long story short, he stopped hanging out with me or even talking to me much, and moved four states away. I kept trying but couldn't seem to maintain the friendship then... I even asked sometimes if he was seeing anyone, and he said "maybe". Then one day out of the blue I get this birth announcement. If I didn't know he no longer considered me a friend before, I did then. To make matters worse, before I could get up the courage to ask him why it was kept a secret, his baby died. So now it's too touchy a subject I'm sure. And I know he loved and wanted his baby, so it's not like he was ashamed of her. My main question is, how do I deal with this "friendship"? If it wasn't that he was my brother, I'd say forget him. (I chat with his wife.)
This was all in 2005, and he was not married at the time. I didn't even know he was seeing anyone then. I did go to the funeral, and a year later flew down again for their wedding.

Family issues are so painful. You and your brother have taken differing paths. While your former closeness would be wonderful, don't expect something from someone who can no longer give that same level of relationship.

Your brother's daughter died. This is the time to send condolences. Don't bring up the past now. It really won't change anything in the short term.

Just start communicating with him every once in a while. Your lives have diverged, but that doesn't mean that you can't care about each other. Your are both adults and have differing interests. You should both have developed friendships by now with others. Accept that you are not teen-agers now and have your own lives to live.

Cherish the past but live in the here and now. Keep the lines of communication open. He may want to talk at some point in time and you will be there. Most of us find our way back home, even if only on the telephone.

2007-04-26 16:21:57 by Summer Rain

I am making birth announcements for our daughter and I would like it to read:
Anthony & Kari, along with Big Brothers Dallas & Lucas would like to announce the birth of our new baby.

Does this look correct?
Thanks!!

yea that's great but you don't have to capitalize big brothers unless you want to.

good luck & congrats!

2009-05-10 11:29:32 by hXcKari

I need a short cute poem for a birth announcement I am making for a friend who has 4 boys and now finally a baby girl..is there something already out there or can someone make a quick something up? something about big brothers protecting her?? like.... watch out boys.. I don't know I am drawing a blank tonight...Thanks!!! I really appreciate your help...
These are great so far... but I think I am wanting something that includes her big brothers...

A flower among the thorns

A flower among the thorns
A baby girl was finally born
A girl among boys
A new bundle of joy

With her brothers to protect her,
Playboys, think twice before you fool her
With her brothers to guide her
She can face the fate laid in front of her

With her brothers to keep her company
She will never-ever feel alone and lonely
With her brothers to love this lucky baby
Her life will sure be colorful and happy

So good luck, beautiful little one
A good life for you has begun
With your brothers by your side
Your life is sure to be an adventurous joyride

2009-01-11 00:07:02 by 2A2K

So my dad and his wife just had a baby (my half brother) and sent out birth announcements. In them were pictures of him and then one of him, my dad, and dads wife. That picture was in a homemade frame thing and on it spelled family. Well I wasn't asked to be in that picture and I am his sister. It kinda hurt my feeling because I feel like they don't think of me in part of that family. I love my brother and visit him when I can, but I just feel like I am not wanted. Am I wrong for being mad for not being in the baby announcements? I mean we are 17 yrs apart, but still.
I live with my mom but like I said go there when I can. I am in high school and have a job and always have play rehersal so I try to fit it all in but just can't.

I don't think you're overreacting about this.
It would hurt me a lot if I were in this situation.

You should talk to your dad about it calmly. Maybe he didn't realize he was hurting your feelings or thought that you wouldn't want to be in the picture.

It's also possible that maybe since you only visit them once in a while they wanted the people that live in the house only. Which still seems rude.
But still, you should talk to your dad before you feel more left out of things and things get harder between you two.

2009-02-20 12:56:14 by Hann♥